comfortably numb

this new product has been in the news quite a bit lately.  bill o'reilly demonstrated it on the factor last night.  he said he's old fashioned and, except for viagra, didn't really need chemical assistance.  who knew he was such a good cocksucker?

anyway, i've ordered some to try--not myself, of course--but i'll get a few bottoms to check it out on my cock and i'll report back to you.  if you have experience with it, please comment!

here's the manufacturer's description:

"Comfortably Numb is a flavored desensitizing spray specially formulated to reduce the discomfort associated with oral sex. The refreshing mist contains a mild numbing agent that coats the back of the throat, helping to suppress gag reflex and prevent discomfort during oral sex. Discreet enough to take with you wherever you go, this special spritz doubles as a breath freshener as well."

i especially like the idea that it's "discreet enough to take wherever you go."  what a great way to manage perception of the corporation's stinginess with quantity and flip it into a benefit.  on the other hand, they're also suggesting that oral sex might just belong places outside the bedroom, and we can appreciate that suggestion, even if o'reilly didn't.

comfortably numb can be ordered at amazon.com or on the fox news official website.

fucking the potential roommate: new rules from a spontaneous combustion

woof!  i put an add up saying "looking for a summer roomate" and an hour ago 6'2" dark italian hunk of a clark kent black smokey hair with a five o'clock shadow completely straight-looking smoldering black-eyed and rather hawkish unbelievable good looks saunters through my door.  he looked like the kind of guy who would have been homecoming king, class president, and a star football player, but here in very classy dark-blue corporate drag, his eyes glistened like black onyx, and at my apartment standing at the door knocking for entrance.

not my typical type--a little too masculine (i'm a more tom welling or brandon routh than chris reeve kind of guy), a little too perfect--but not the kind i'd kick out of bed either.  and not the kind i expect to be a passive bitch--but there you have it.  (i met him on a dom/sub website where calling the "boy" bitch is a term of endearment.)  so i showed him the apartment, trying to ignore the electricity arcing between us occasionally.  that attraction is sometimes best ignored.  left to itself, it tends to intensify.  it's a bit like letting a good wine breathe.  even though you know you could just dive in, and you want to do just that, and even when you know the wine is ready, sometimes it's best to let everything be at play for a little while.  let the desire ferment.  you don't want to be a total whore and fuck the dude before you know his name.  at least not every time.

so we're standing at the door, my hand on the knob to open it for his exit, desire arcing between us, me leaning in to open the door, him leaning into exit, our eyes a little too much on each other, our lips leaning forward for the casual peck on the cheek goodbye, when instead they brush one set over and then onto the other.  exploring.  locking.  horny reader, are you hard yet?  well i'm not writing just to make you hot and erect.  there are some "teachable moments" here.

new rule for tops:  if you want tail you have to have the courage to mount!  maintain confidence under all circumstances.  dogs do it, so can you!  "normally at this point i'd be ripping your clothes off and raping you," i said, "but i know you need to get back to work, do you have time?"  a smile.  a yes.  and i'm leading him in front of me to the bedroom with my hand clamped around the back of his neck.    now i did not grow up fucking dudes this hot.  and my inner brat was screaming:  "he's way out of your league."  but fifteen years of going around the block in new york has taught me one thing about bottoms:  they are attracted to confidence like bees to clover.  and they want you to want them and have the courage to show it.  it's frequently what they lack.  if you're a top and you don't have confidence, manufuckingfacture it or you're out of the game.  grow some balls, and fill them with desire!  then stuff the bottom full of your desire-hardened cock!  it's a timeless formula.

new rule:  how to deal with bad breath.  he didn't have it.  i thought i might.  but this tip works either way.  i took out my packet of listerine breath mints and said "i think my breath may be funky, and you don't need one, but do you want one?"  of course he took one.  bad breath is always a turn-off.  i was with someone a few months ago who said "if you really care for the person, bad breath shouldn't matter."  bullshit.  bad breath is bad breath.  take responsibility for your own, and don't ignore it in another, because it can torpedo your fun and make the whole scene go down like the lusitania.  the trick to dealing with bad breath:  simply be kind about it.  listerine breath mints can be fun.  get to know them.  there's also drops and mints.  i try to avoid things with sugar because they can actually make your breath worse later on.

new rule for tops:  if your bottom is gagging it's time for a quick check-in.  don't assume anything.  some bottoms live to be gagged.  i fucking love those guys.  i plow into their faces with abandon and they gag and gag and gag before thrusting me away to gasp for air.  and then what do they do?  they dive back onto my cock as if their life would end without it.  now that's paradise for a top like me, and apparently for them as well.  there are even a few bottoms out there who like to be gagged to the point of throwing up.  not exactly my scene and the clean-up is a bitch.  i mention it to illustrate the blog's number one rule:  don't assume anything about another person sexually.  just because something doesn't appeal to you is not evidence that another won't love it.  so i pulled my bottom bitch's head off my cock by his hair and asked him:  "are you the kind of bottom who likes to be gagged or not?"  he said he loved it.  i pushed his head back onto my cock and thrust it deep into his face.

new rule for everyone:  give folks the freedom and opportunity to be complex!  people tend to like more than one dish at the smorgasbord of erotic adventures.  and loving carrots doesn't mean you can't love broccoli or spinach as well!  i love deepthroaters.  and i write about it and praise them.  but it doesn't mean i don't love other types of cocksuckers (read my first post about blogger adventures from 1/18/2010) or rimmers or tight asses just as much.    people frequently see that i'm into bondage or oral or flogging or whatever and they assume that we're not a match because they're into vanilla.  bullshit.  give people the freedom and the opportunity to be complex!  just because the leather daddy is flagging dark blue for fucking doesn't mean he wouldn't like your lips locked around his cock.  just because my man from today looked like a football star didn't mean he wasn't going to allow me to wrestle him to the mattress.  and i did!

the scene was a kind of wam-bam and it was over quickly.  i asked him how much time he had and he didn't have a lot.  so after fucking his face for a short while, i lifted his legs over my shoulders and fucked the cum out of him.  i wanted him to cum while i was fucking him because i wanted him to want to come back for more--and sure enough--the second assignation is tomorrow night.  i then flipped him over so i could get a good visual of his ass and blew all over his back.

in praise of olive oil: redux

i want to return today to discuss the miracle of olive oil for oral sex.  olive oil has become one of my tricks of the trade, and until you've tried it, i don't think you can appreciate how good it does what it does.  and i don't mean dress salads!

good oral sex requires a lot of saliva.  the best cocksuckers generate a ton of it, and it can get messy.  sloppy, wet saliva also feels so good when someone takes it and rubs it all over your balls and uses it to lubricate their caresses while your cock is down their throat! tops disagree about this--some want your hands on the shaft, but i'm a balls guy--i want my cock deep in your throat and your hands--both of them, ideally--on my balls.  one of my regular favorites calls it the "worshiping master" position.  i like that.  and hands shouldn't just hover there stationary, they need to caress and explore, fondle, and pull/tug gently.

people generate different amounts of saliva in their mouths.  and i suspect that we generate less as we age.  and some people have conditions in which their mouths generate less and less.  a dry mouth can even be dangerous for the teeth and gums.  it's also hard to keep the saliva generation going on for extended play.  there is an answer to these problems and it comes from the land of jesus, miracles, and hot men--olive oil!

several weeks ago i was with a newcomer to the trade.  he wanted to learn how to deepthroat and i was his instructor.  my cock kept hitting the back of his throat and meeting stiff (& dry-feeling) resistance--a rock meeting a hard place, if you will.  i whipped out my bottle of olive oil, lubed my cock up generously, slid it in and out a few times to lube up his throat, and my cock slid almost effortlessly right down into his deep throat.  shocked the shit out of him.  but he loved it.  a first for him! a real treat for me! i suspect that a good lubed throat that effortlessly allows the cock to pass deep inside helps overcome the gag reflex as well.

additional benefits of olive oil:  it tastes good.  certainly better than lube.  and for the top, i think it's the perfect viscosity, especially when mixed with saliva and the soft inner tissue of an eager bottom's mouth and throat. and it feels pretty fucking wonderful on the balls as well. stock up for your next session!

about poppers 2

so, asking around for you my horny and faithful readers...

i'm told the best poppers, or among the best anyway, are maximum impact. spray on a cloth and inhale. they can be purchased here.

but remember:  never mix poppers with e-d drugs like viagra!!

about poppers 1

the fist words about poppers: "danger, danger" will robinson!" while generally considered safe for moderate use, there is one BIG exception: NEVER use poppers with viagra or other e-d drugs! NEVER! both types of drugs lower your blood pressure and the combined effect can be that your brain and heart can't get enough oxygen to function. don't mix poppers with e-d drugs!! ever.

"poppers" is the slang term for various alkyl nitrates inhaled for recreational purposes. the name comes from the good old days when they came in small glass tubes, covered with fishnet that made a popping sound when broken open. detailed information can be found on wikipedia.

poppers increase your heart rate and dilate the arteries and cause blood pressure to drop, producing a rush of warm sensations and dizziness that enhance the sexual experience. the effect usually lasts about 30 seconds to one minute. poppers are well known to help bottoms take that last inch down their throat or up their ass. some of us tops like to force-feed poppers to our willing bottoms. they are, of course, sniffed/inhaled, never drunk!

i'm eager to hear from folks who use poppers the what/why/how. poppers give me a horrible headache and i don't like them--most tops don't, at least in my experience. so please inform me so i can write about it and inform others!!

altoids and oral sex

i'd never heard about this--apparently this email circulated around the internet for awhile--but i just discovered it. anyone combined altoids and oral? please comment if you have. a doctor's thoughts on the topic below...

Subject: Altoids in a whole new light

This is an absolutely true story-forward it around to friends who might get a kick out of it.

Had the most interesting conversation with the top sales weasel at our company today. She came into my office and noticed I had a box of Altoids on my desk.

(Have you had them? They are these obnoxiously strong peppermints made in England.) As soon as she saw them, she burst into laughter. Turns out she had recently had an affair with a guy who called her and left her an incredibly steamy voice mail message after an encounter. He went on and on about what a blow job goddess she was, how amazing she was, how he'd never be the same, etc. She was kind of puzzled, thinking: what did I do to this guy that was so different from my regular technique?

She finally figured it out: she's a smoker, and before getting intimate with him, she had gone to the bathroom to "freshen up." Not having a toothbrush, she crunched on about four Altoids and then got busy. Apparently things went amazingly.

So she passed this little tidbit on to another female sales weasel, who immediately tried it out on *her* fiance. Apparently this guy has never, ever been into oral sex, but liked the mint sensation so much that he asked her to stop and chew another Altoid mid-blow job. He is now a fellatio gourmand.

This news has been going around our office. Having a box of Altoids on your desk is now like being part of the Secret Blowjob Goddess Society. It's the equivalent of having the hottest car or coolest computer. News spread like crazy among the females, who all went out at lunch to Walgreens to buy a box of Altoids (about $2 for 100 or so), and their partners across the city tonight are getting one hell of a corporate blow job. As far as company-wide morale boosting events, it doesn't get much better.

Some of the men found out, too -- they went out after work to buy them for their wives. They strategized on how to get their wives to eat them.

And people wonder why I work in technology.

(For what it's worth -- it really does work! It leaves a lasting tingle that is apparently quite exquisite.)

Dr. Sandor Gardos:

There are many urban myths related to sex, but this is one of the few that happens to be somewhat true. Altoids really do create an interesting sensation during oral sex. Though these mints have been around forever, stories are now being widely circulated about their supposedly miraculous powers to enhance oral sex. I have even read reports that entire towns have been sold out following a story on the radio.

What you need to understand is that certain substances (such as BenGay) penetrate the skin to create sensations of warmth or cold. Mucous membranes, such as the genitals, allow these substances to penetrate more strongly. Thus, these items create a tingle and a sensation of hot or cold depending on... uh... what the giver is doing or how he or she is breathing. Because Altoids are stronger than most mints (and made with real peppermint oil), they have a more pronounced effect. But other edible substances, such as Creme de Menthe, also work.

The trick is to put a couple in your mouth and suck on them until they are almost dissolved, then go down on your partner. If you do a warm exhale it will create one type of sensation, while a cool blow or inhale will create another. Luckily, it works just as well on both men and women. Give it a try with your partner and see what they think. Happy experimenting!

tom deflowers a virgin cocksucker

this is me in action. not today's action, but it's me...

several days ago i got a phone call from a fellow planning to visit new york who said that he'd never sucked cock before, but he wanted to experience it. he was wondering if i would take on a beginner.  most of all, he said, he wanted to learn to deepthroat. 

a widower, he'd only recently discovered this desire, this side of his sexuality.  and that desire had lead him ultimately to my blog.  of course i said yes; this was my ideal job presenting itself.  i eagerly agreed to meet up!

we talked a little when he arrived, and then i sat him on a stool, stood over him, and pressed his face into my crotch.  he undid my belt and jeans button and pulled open my fly.  i told him that i liked the feel of his hot, moist breath working its way through the cloth of my underwear and that it's a great way to make a guy good and hard; it's a great appetizer for the main course that's to follow.

after letting him steam me up for a little and get me growing, i reached down and slowly pulled my jeans and black calvin's down, revealing my pubes and the top of the shaft and then, inch by inch, slowly letting him see the whole thing, as it sprang out of the constricting underwear.  

i'm never sure whether to believe someone when they tell me it's their first time, but this guy seemed pretty straight-forward.  he also seemed sufficiently excited, anxious, eager, and out of his element.  he took me in his mouth immediately and tried to take me all the way, for instance.  i wasn't hard enough yet to go there, nor was he ready to take me.

so i told him to go easy and relax, we had plenty of time.  it was exciting for me to know that this "student" of mine had read my blog and was between my legs, eager to try things he'd read about, releasing desires he'd only dreamed about, and wanting to learn from me and from the situation.  he told me he'd found saytr films' "ream his straight throat" online and had been watching it.

it didn't take me long to spring into full hardness, and he was eager to experience it all the way down his throat--just as he'd said he would be.  he kept trying to force it deeper and deeper and the back of his throat kept me tightly locked out.

so following a tip from one of my buds mentioned earlier--the post about olive oil--i pulled out the natural miracle juice, poured it all over my cock, and slid my hard salami down over his tongue, back and forth a little knocking at the entrance of this throat, stood up to adjust the angle a litte, and sunk it home, deep into the back of his throat.

he liked it, much to my surprise, although it took the wind out of him. he was surprised to discover that he couldn't breathe with the cock down his throat.  he was an eager sucker, however, and was quick to dive back on my cock.  and for the rest of the time we were together, my cock was either down his throat or he was catching his breath, or his tongue was up my ass--he was surprised to find that he liked that.  grrr!

i took him into my bedroom and put him in the supine position on my bed.  my cock slid right down deep into his throat.  i've read that this position is sometimes easier for beginners.  and while that has not been my experience in the past, it was today.  he wanted me to cum in him, but wasn't sure if he wanted me deep down his throat or to come in his mouth. he was also a little concerned about hiv, so i carefully explained the levels of risk and my negative status. he wanted to go ahead.  i suggested it might be easier if deeper, and he agreed.  so i stroked to the edge, told him to get ready for some facefucking, sunk my cock deep into the back of this throat, and fucked him until i blasted deep down his throat.

he's coming back monday for another session.  i think we're both looking forward to it.

pastiche of positions 1

one of the great things about porn is its ability to fire up the image-ination!  want to try something new and different?  check out porn.  books about oral sex go on and on about various positions--why waste all that paper?  here are some pics to inspire--clicking on most will give you a larger image.  one lesson to learn here:  there's no reason it has to be one-on-one.  mix it up for fun.  enjoy!

overcoming the gag reflex

the gag reflex is a product of the body's psychological AND physiological responses, so it can be a bit of a challenge to overcome. learning to control the gag reflex is a skill that can be worked on. you can improve. so if you're a beginner and you are afraid, that's okay. just know that you can always get better. even within a single session, if you are patient with yourself, you can improve as you relax, take your time, stay non-judgmental with yourself, and understand that what you are undertaking is not easy for everyone in the beginning. in this way it's not a whole lot different from learning to get fucked--you need to learn to relax certain muscles before it can be pleasurable.




suggestion #1: remember to breathe. denying your body the air it needs will only cause you to tense up and become anxious. the best cocksuckers are able to breathe around the cock or through their nostrils even when dick is lodged deep in their throat--and this is primarily about relaxation. that's a level of expertise that is pretty rare, in my experience, but it is out there. woof! work it, cocksucker!

suggestion #2: practice on a dildo or penis-sized vegetable and learn to work with your gag reflex. practice does make perfect!

suggestion #3: take things bit by bit and have confidence! know that your body will relax onto and around him.

suggestion #4: experiment. some angles are easier for some people and more difficult for others. the angle that works best can also be a factor of the shape and curvature of your partner's cock.

suggestion #5: get in touch with your own arousal. it works wonders to help decrease the gag reflex!

i will write more about this in future posts. i also want to invite readers to share suggestions--please write to me if you have ideas that should be added here!

jonah the whale swallower

this is an astonishing video. it's a little long and repetitive, but don't page away before catching the ending. my only complaint is that we don't get to see the cock hard. would be great to have x-ray vision to see what is happening inside as well. this cocksucker is a top's dream...

the eyes of the beholder

a book i've been reading about fellatio asks the question: "why do men enjoy getting head?" it's the wrong question. the answer should begin with the acknowledgement that not all men do. good sexual advice never assumes that all bodies are the same and can be pleasured in the same ways. starting with that assumption is a prescription for disaster. it's a mistake i've made too often.

there are some of us, however, for whom a pair of hot lips wrapped around our swelling members is heaven on earth. the mouth and throat convey sensations that are unique. and the more skilled the bottom, the more pleasurable it can be for the top. the more skilled the top--the more sensitive to the nuances of desire and longing--the more pleasurable it will be for the bottom.

that pleasure, however, is more than the physical sensations. pleasure is also in the visual: the submission of the bottom, his rapt attention on your dick, his eyes looking up into yours with desire and longing, his willingness to surrender his mouth and throat to your penetration. some bloggers use the word "worship" here... he wants to be filled up. and you're there to give it to him.
there's a communication that takes place between a good oral top and his bottom that is not unlike a dance, in that each partner is constantly taking cues--visual and physical--from the other. it's a dance, however, that is being improvised at each step of the way; there is no choreographer but the two in the dance.

hot pics: the supine position

i used to fast-forward through the oral scenes of a porn video to get to the "real" stuff--the fucking. and that's what i wanted to do between the sheets, as well. no more. these days, i'm obsessed with oral sex--being on top primarily. i first discovered how much fun oral can be in the position pictured here--colton ford sinking his thick shaft into the supine matthew rush, from the video "aftertshock 2" by falcon/mustang.


when i discovered that there are boys out there who love taking cock in this position, and who can take it all way down to the pubes, love it, who can be made to gag (and gag) and they'll dive back onto your cock when you pull out, well...this all rocked my world. i've read that this position is easier for a bottom to take the cock down his throat; that's not my experience. in this position the cock goes deepest into the back of the throat--most pleasurable for the top, but a challenge for the inexperienced cocksucker. only the most advanced can handle this position. start practicing, boys.

one thing i really love about this picture: carlton ford has his hand behind the head of the bottom. this works for two good reasons: first, he can hold up and support the bottom's head, relieving the tension on matthew's neck. second, he can leverage his cock as deep as possible into the throat by pulling matthew's head up onto his downward thrusting cock. the top is in complete control--as he should be. especially in this position. in real life the top's left hand could be on the chest of the bottom, playing with his nips, massaging his pecs, or even holding his mouth open for pummeling...lots of options.

how to suck cock--14 lessons from the experts

I did not write this material, it has been passed around the internet for several years. I take it from ropetop.com/oral.html.





HOW TO SUCK COCK - A 14 LESSON TUTORIAL WITH TECHNIQUES FROM SOME OF THE EXPERTS.

LESSON ONE

I am not sure if it was because I grew up in a household with brothers or whether I would have had the same feelings and inclinations had I been an only child but I do know that from the time of my earliest memories I have been fascinated with penises.

Let's talk about the "basic penis." I regard oral sex as the highest form of expression of love that can be exchanged between two people. Hopefully this information will help you to break down any barriers which you might have that would prevent you from expressing your love in this way and from receiving a reciprocation from your male companion.

First things first. LOOK at the cock. I do not mean a cursory glance not a hurried, surreptitious examination. Take enough time that you convince your companion that some kind of treat is in store for him provided he will allow you to do with him, and particularly with his cock, exactly what you want.

Place him flat on his back on your bed, in a well lighted room. Take his cock in your hand and LOOK at it. He probably will not have the will power to stay soft, but then again you are worshipping his very essence. Few men can stay soft under these circumstances, when it is apparent that the person LOOKING at his cock is worshipping.

When you first start to touch him, his cock will become hard and be in a state where your examination will be meaningful. Wouldn't it be nice if going to the doctor for an examination was as enriching?

The cock must be hard if you are to be able to note the important parts - those parts sensitive to stimulation by your lips and tongue.

The first thing you will note is whether or not he is circumcised. Circumcision is not universally practiced: there are advantages and disadvantages to penises in both conditions from the standpoint of providing oral caresses that bring the highest kind of delight to your man.

Next take a close look at the shaft of the penis itself. There is a bulbous part of the organ near the outer end, slightly larger in diameter than the shaft, which is often called the head. Technically this is the 'glans penis' (comes from the Latin glans which means acorn. Look at it closely; does kind of look like an acorn doesn't it?)

The outside perimeter of the glans penis is the corona. This joins the head to the shaft. This is the most sensitive spot on the penis. It is toward this ridge that you will direct most of your attention when you are giving head. Follow this ridge around to the underside of the penis. You know that I like to call it the underbelly. I am particularly fond of the underbelly!

You will notice a point of juncture where the two ends of this irregular circle come together. If your partner is not circumcised, this will also be the point where the foreskin is attached. This tiny area is easily the most sensitive spot on his entire body, and it is possible to bring your partner to climax simply by gently tapping the tip of your tongue directly on it. Spend time caressing the glans and those areas immediately surrounding it.

Beneath the glans is the shaft of the penis. The shaft does not have many nerve endings and does not, therefore, provide a man with any high degree of stimulation when caressed either manually or with your tongue to the exclusion of the glans penis itself. It always amazes me to note the number of confirmed cocksuckers who believe that sucking up and down on the shaft will get the guy off. That's not it folks! If it works it is because the back of your throat is playing tricks on his glans penis. Your throat is giving head to his head!

Beneath the shaft are the testicles (balls, jewels, call them what you like, but let's not ignore their significance). The testicles are extremely sensitive to pain and are not usually considered subject to erotic stimulation to any particular degree. Not true! You can add a high degree of pleasure for him by paying the right kind of attention to the balls!

Now lets go back to the shaft of the matter. The opening in the tip of the glans penis is the meatus. Here is where the cum spurts. (I could have said semen is ejaculated but I did not want to sound too professional).

There are other parts of a man's body which respond with alacrity to oral stimulation.

Many men are particularly sensitive around the nipples. The first time I kissed my partner's nipples he shot before I had the chance to even get near his cock. While I have not been able to duplicate this in the laboratory setting (he hates to go near the lab with me) my partner still gets extremely turned on by my lingual nipple caresses.

So LOOK at your partner's penis. Study it. Learn its areas of special sensitivity completely and be ready to apply your knowledge to his body with your tongue and with your lips when you bend your loving head over his cock. There is nothing that you can do which more clearly shows your love for him than the worship you can provide his cock!

LESSON TWO

The sad fact is that most people, men and women, do not have the slightest idea of how to suck cock. Most seem to think that simply by making a cunt of their mouth, closing it around a man's penis, and bobbing their heads lustily up and down until he climaxes automatically makes them expert cocksuckers. Au contraire!

Consummate skill is required to suck a man's cock and provide him with the highest degree of pleasure possible. When I first started my quest I really had no one to turn to for advice and counsel. It was all hunt and suck. Hunt and suck. Find that one technique that could and would set him on fire! I had to learn from my experiences and while I would not want to deny you the innate pleasure that these experiences will bring I would hate to see you lose a great companion because of your inexperience and lack of expertise.

Let's assume that you have taken that opportunity to LOOK at his penis. To explore each area of the penis to find the most sensitive parts. That you have gotten beyond "Parts is parts" and recognize that some parts are more equal than others.

In order for you to observe your man's reactions and get the most information possible about his responses try the following:

While his erect penis points toward the ceiling, cup his balls in one hand and gently, using only your tongue, lick softly, but carefully along the entire underside of his erect organ. As you suck along the underbelly you will learn those areas that give him the greatest pleasure when your tongue is touching them. Unless he is made of stone, your partner will provide you with vivid clues as to which areas are most pleasurable.

As you discover these areas of enhanced pleasure concentrate on them. For most men the most sensitive area will be the point where the ring (or corona) of the head and the foreskin are attached. Or were attached prior to his circumcision. By continued licking and tapping along this area with your tongue you are going to bring forth a geyser. If you are not skilled and you want to please him in a hurry I suggest that you get him off in this manner in order to become familiar at first hand with the nature and delight of his climax.

As he is getting ready for climax you will note changes in his penis. These signs will be the same every time he climaxes so that you can prepare for his cum properly. The head of the cock may swell somewhat larger then it is during the normal course of his erection. He may thrust his hips forward as he wants to send his body hurtling out his cock with his cum. And for most men, immediately prior to the cum, there will appear at the tiny, lovely lips at the tip of the cock a clear drop or two of fluid. When you see this or feel the opening at the meatus through his condom you know that the moment of truth is at hand. Launch the torpedoes, full cum ahead!

Where should you be when you are sucking his cock? Between his legs, on top of him, in a sixty nine position? Where? Because of the structure of his penis, as well as the structure of your mouth, lips, tongue, and teeth, you can provide the highest degree of sensation to yourself and your partner by kneeling between his legs and approaching his cock from the bottom rather than from the side or the top. Don't believe me? Try the various positions (I describe in later chapters techniques to be used with each position). See what works best for you and your partner.

LESSON THREE

Place his stiff cock inside your mouth but do not tighten your lips around the shaft. With your head begin a circle motion. The cock will slide to different places in your mouth as you continue the circle motion. Watch your teeth on this one. A kneeling position will suffice but it is also effective when your partner is on his back and your head is directly over his cock. The circle should be executed in both clockwise and counterclockwise motions in a slow purposeful manner. I found many guys in New York who seem to prefer this technique above all others. I met one guy who could circle a cock for hours and I found myself having multiple orgasms while his mouth circled my cock. I didn't lose my hard-on after each cum. When the technique is performed correctly it means many hours of unadulterated pleasure.

LESSON FOUR

With your man sitting in an elevated position and you on your knees in front of him lift his hard cock to reveal his balls. With your tongue find the underside of his balls. Now, while resting his balls on your wet tongue, lick in an upward motion to the very tip of his cock. It is permissible to use your hands in this technique. It is bettor to do this technique several times in succession-like licking a lollipop or ice cream cone. I grew up down south. And one thing about southern boys. We learn early how to get it off quickly when the need is there. And the lollipop lick is the one technique in this book which few men can tolerate for long periods of time without cumming.

LESSON FIVE

Right now lets discuss a technique that is probably the most common cocksucking technique in the world. Take his cock in your mouth but not deeply. We will get to deep throating later on. It's great, not over-rated, but if you want to be an expert at deep throat start with the right techniques and work your way down, so to speak.

Take his cock in your mouth by sliding your moistened tongue lovingly over the head until your lips close around the shaft at the point just behind the corona. Don't just open your mouth and close it around his cock. Slide it in. He will enjoy it much more.

Encase the shaft of his penis with your hand. Remember the shaft is relatively insensitive to any kind of stimulation. By enclosing his penis with your hand you give him the sensation of having his penis encased.

Now you have several options. Try twisting your head from side to side making sure your moist lips stay in contact with the coronal ridge. While doing this gently move your hand up and down the shaft. When he climaxes he may want to push your head further down the shaft of his penis. He wants to envelop you with his cock. As you are learning his climax you will miss the fine points if you deep throat at this time. Instead gently suck around the corona as he climaxes so that you can intensify his pleasure and increase the force of his orgasm.

As you gain more experience you will be able to tell exactly when his climax is approaching and you will be ready for that initial spurt out the rubber.

LESSON SIX

There is one further refinement to this basic technique which will heighten his orgasm. If you place your thumb at the very base of the penis in such a way as to block the tube through which the cum spurts, the semen cannot escape even though he is spasming and going through the reflex action of ejaculating semen.

If at the same time you suck vigorously on the head of his cock you can delay his cum for several long moments. When you finally allow the cum to spurt it will last much longer and be just as intense as a result. Even though you delay the cum for only a few short moments you will be surprised by the intensity of his cum.

These techniques are the basis of cocksucking. Do not go beyond them until you have become an expert, not only in the techniques themselves, but also in the reading and interpreting of your partner's responses to such a point that you know exactly how he is getting off on what you are doing. When you have reached this point, you are ready for the more subtle, more advanced techniques.

Don't be so slavish that you miss out on the fun of self discovery. Find out what works for you and for your partner and make your cocksucking as individual as your signature. After all, you want your man to pick you out in the dark among a hundred slobbering cocksuckers.

LESSON SEVEN

One of the first things you encountered when you first started to suck cock was a gag reflex. Most men seem to want to force their cocks down your throat as far as they can get it. Particularly at the moment when they cum!

Consider for a moment that the average length of your oral cavity is three to three and a half inches while the average Caucasian cock length is five to five and a half inches. The laws of nature would seem to dictate that getting all that cock into your mouth is an impossibility.

It can be done. You probably know someone who can do it and that is why you purchased this book to begin with. It is possible to master the necessary technique. I don't want to be boring, but if you understand your anatomy you will begin to understand the requirements that allow you to take his hard cock into your mouth and down your throat. The biggest obstacle to taking all of his cock down your throat is the fact that there is a bend of almost ninety degrees behind your tongue leading down into your throat. So the first thing to do is get the cock past that angle.

Get past the angle of the dangle!

In order to practice this, get in a position where you can turn your head in such a way that your mouth and throat lie almost in a straight line. The best position to accomplish this is to lie on a bed so that your head is near the edge with your body sprawled across the bed so that your head is tipped sharply back. This position will put your mouth and throat nearly in a line and will allow your partner to approach you in such a way that insertion of his cock can be made so deeply that his pubic hair presses against your lips.

LESSON EIGHT

Today we will practice mastering physical reaction that must be alleviated before the art of deep penetration can fully be enjoyed. The natural tendency of the body to gag when a foreign object such as a deeply thrusting cock being forced down your throat. You can overcome this tendency by completely relaxing your throat at moment the insertion is made. It is equally important that you maintain this relaxation during the entire deep throating.

Let him put his cock down your throat and hold it still while you find the most comfortable way to proceed. Because of your position you will not be able to move or to offer him any greater stimulation than simply keeping your mouth tightly closed around his throbbing cock. If you are able try to stimulate his underbelly with your tongue, do it!

You will only be able to relax and take his cock in this way if you completely thrust your partner. Your partner is in full control. He must initiate and maintain all the motion. This is the only exercise in which you relinquish your control of the situation to your partner. He will relish this for the simple fact that for the first time he can insert his cock as deeply down your throat as he wants to. Now your partner begins an in and out movement that is just like fucking. He should start slowly, especially if this is a completely new experience for the two of you. After all if he hurts you he cuts himself off from one of the great pleasures in life. His only other requirement during this exercise is to keep the motion in the same direction throughout this oral exercise as there is simply no leeway for him to vary the motion from side to side.

One other word of caution.

Don't let your partner get carried away at the moment he starts to cum. At that spectacular moment he will be able for the first time to thrust his cock all the way inside your oral cavity and that is the most important lesson of this exercise! His only other requirement during the exercise is to keep the motion in the same against your lips as he cums. Because of your position in bed you will not be faced with the problem of swallowing his cum. And this is not just because he has a condom on his dick. The reason is because he has gotten his cock BEYOND your gag reflex! Without the rubber his cum would shoot directly into your stomach! If both you and your partner understand what it is that you are trying to do as well as the possible problems that may "cum" up along the way no harm or discomfort will happen to either of you.

It is possible that not everyone will learn the "deep throat" technique but this inability does not make you any less a cocksucker. You must allow your throat to relax completely while your partner is thrusting his cock this deeply down your throat. To do this long enough for your partner to completely get it off is very difficult and may require practice beyond this day. It may be that you will be able to take your partner completely down your throat, but you will not be able to maintain proper relaxation of your throat to until he shoots his load. Hopefully your partner will understand that this is not a rejection of him or of what he is offering you, and it is my sincere desire that you not stop here and think that you will never master the "deep throat" technique.

Continue to practice this lesson. I know couples who have devoted ten months to this lesson alone. Continue to practice this technique because your practice will allow you to take his cock deeper into your throat each time and for longer periods of time. Ultimately you will succeed. If you have the desire you will get this one down pat!

LESSON NINE

Now lets turn to another portion of your partner's anatomy which should not be ignored-the family jewels. Here are two objects which can enhance your partner's feelings more than any other. Many people do not think of the balls as primary sexual objects. Many men are extremely sensitive and just as in lesson eight there must be a certain amount of trust built up between the two of you before he will willingly let you have undisputed use of these two pearls of delight!

For today's lesson begin by gently licking his balls with your tongue. As your partner becomes more trusting you may begin to play with his nipples with your fingers gradually increasing or decreasing the intensity as you gauge how he is responding. You may want to gently caress his cock with your hand while you are bathing his balls with your tongue.

Remember that the balls are extremely sensitive to pain and he will lose his trust in you if you do not respect any limits he places on them just as you have the right to place limits on the back of your throat until you are completely ready to receive him.

It is possible once you have built up this trust to take both his balls in your mouth. He will be more receptive to this if you thoroughly wet them with your tongue prior to taking them into your mouth. Unless your partner is into the new fad of complete body shaving he will have tiny hairs on his testicles. By giving the balls a complete tongue bath prior to taking them into your mouth, you will have pressed these hairs down along the surface of the sac and will not inadvertently cause pain by pulling on them.

This may seem a small lesson but you will discover an entirely new world of sensations for your partner when you take the time to get to know his testicles!

LESSON TEN

I hesitated to include this into your lesson plan but finally I decided that if you are aware of the most safe way to do this technique that my responsibility for giving you the tools to be the best cocksucker you can be will be satisfied.

Analingus. Putting your tongue to his anal opening. Ass sucking.

Before you even consider doing this, make certain that your partner is clean. Immediately out of the shower. Place a piece of Saran wrap over the butt. At no time should your tongue come into contact with the anal surface itself.

For this lesson place your partner on his back with his legs in the air and his knees close to his shoulders. This spreads his buttocks apart and allows you access to his butthole.

You are probably under the impression that actual penetration of the asshole itself is necessary for your partner to receive the most complete enjoyment of this technique. Not so mojo! The nerve endings around the anus itself have no discrimination and you will get him off just as well and as thoroughly by licking around the area as if you stick your tongue up his butt!

As with some of your other lessons this technique will not usually be enough to get him to cum, but I feel that it is important to know all aspects of your partner's body in order to give him the most complete pleasure you can. You may find that after many hours of oral pleasure you need to have other areas to concentrate on in order to give him the satisfaction he deserves.

Analingus is a powerful stimulant and when combined with other activities such as vigorous hand stimulation on his cock will cause a rapid and powerful cum!

LESSON ELEVEN

For most of our lessons the only thing required is yourself, your partner, and a condom. Maybe some Saran wrap. A plastic glove or two. Well, another toy that will enhance your pleasure is a mini- vibrator. For this lesson you may want to start with your finger. Then as you and your partner become more accustomed to each other you may find him a little intrigued about the vibrator and what it can do for him.

As you are giving head begin a slow playful search around his ass. Many men are particularly sensitive in this area and it will enhance the sensations that your mouth and tongue and throat are giving his cock to feel a finger playing with his butt. As your partner relaxes and allows you access, gently insert your gloved finger into his butt. Go slowly exploring the velvety sensations along the sides of his opening.

When your finger is inside his asshole completely you will be at the area of the prostate gland. Massage of this gland by your finger will produce some of the most delightful sensations your partner has yet to experience. I remember going to the doctor for a physical the first time I felt this sensation. I could hardly wait to get home and have my partner try it out on me again. While it was a bit embarrassing to cum in the doctor's office, the feelings that the doctor inadvertently produced were so strong that I wanted to experience them again and again!

A gloved finger is really all that is required for this lesson. However some members of the Cocksuckers Club of America report to me that a mini-vibrator works exceptionally well for this type of stimulus. It is just the same length as the average finger and due to the vibrations that it produces the sensations against the prostate gland are even more enhanced!

If your partner likes this stimulation you must then discover which method he likes best. Some men prefer an in an out movement with the finger or the vibrator while others do not. I personally find this painful--too much like a stab in the dark. I prefer the finger or vibrator to be placed against the prostate gland and left there to do its most. Whichever method your partner prefers is the one you should use.

One other point. When your partner cums there will be a natural tendency for him to push the finger or vibrator out of his asshole. The asshole muscles are spasming and anything in the way will be forced out. But to maximize his pleasure you must not let this happen. Hold your finger or the vibrator firmly in place-- this will help to stimulate the sperm production to its maximum.

Many people have questioned me about a vibrator around the cock itself. Does it add to the sensation or not?

It does for my partner, it does not for me. That seems to be the consensus of opinion of other readers of FRENCH CUISINE MAGAZINE as well. I suggest as long as you have the vibrator handy anyway, try it around the penis. When you are licking his balls. When you are licking his asshole. If he gets off on it, then feel free to use the vibrator around his dick and balls. If he hates the sensation obviously don't try it again.

LESSON TWELVE

There are times when you will want to get him off in a hurry! I always say that Southern boys learn this one first and then expand their repertory from that point. But because I want you to become an expert at all aspects of oral lovemaking I deliberately waited until now to introduce this technique. It differs from lesson four in that you are a more consummate cocksucker now. He will love it all the more if he realizes that this is not the only trick you have down your mouth!

It is a very simple technique and if you understand your partner's basic cock anatomy you will grasp this one easily. Place your lips around the head of your partner's cock and twirl your lips wetly and gently around the coronal ridge at the back of the head of his penis. This does not require any great cocksucking skill and it works simply because this is the area that is most sensitive on your partner's cock.

It is not necessary to be a skillful cocksucker. All that is necessary is for you to find the most sensitive area around the coronal area. By sucking on this area of his cock continuously you will produce a quick powerful cum. It is not necessary to bob your head up and down on his cock to get him off. One other use of this technique is to get him hard again after he cums and you will soon find him rip roaring to go again.

LESSON THIRTEEN

Don't be surprised if you find yourself going back to this lesson for seconds. We discussed briefly at the end of lesson 12 a technique to get him going again if he has recently cum. Today after you have gotten your man off, lets concentrate on some techniques to get him back on again. Not just to get him hard but to keep him hard. Hard enough to want to cum again!

After he has cum you may need other techniques to keep him hard and to keep him interested. Many men (not all but a good portion of us) are exhausted by a single cum and while it is possible to get your partner up again you have a long way to go before you get him to cum again.

Cocksucking alone at this time is usually not enough to get him off. You will need to combine some of the techniques you have learned earlier with your basic cocksucking technique to stimulate the juices for a second and third go around. Don't hesitate in your exploration of his body at this time. His nipples, his balls, his asshole. His armpits. His earlobes.

For the second cum you are free to really get into his body and explore all those erotic areas that you missed when you were concentrating on his cock exclusively. His navel. His toes.

One of the things I find most exciting about the second cum is the lack of expectation that you must get him to climax within a certain time frame. You have all the time in the world to really give his total body a complete tongue bath. You can explore his body safely and completely and really get to know the total body as well as you know his delightful dick! This is merely a sign that you are becoming a true connoisseur of cockflesh. A title I am proud to hold.

LESSON FOURTEEN

Soixante-Neuf (Sixty Nine)

Sixty nine is not always the perfect way to provide your partner oral satisfaction. Inadvertently one of you will "let up" your end of the cocksucking in order to experience the subtle pleasures the other partner is giving you. For this reason I have included it as the final lesson. Many people think that the deep throat technique is the ultimate pleasure you can give your partner. Actually I believe that sixty-nine is the ultimate pleasure.

Done correctly and unselfishly when both of you are completely in tune with each others innermost desires, the sixty nine is the ultimate. But because of the problem mentioned earlier in this lesson, most people practice it too early and it becomes an intensely satisfying experience for one partner at the expense of the other. When you are completely on each other's wavelength you will discover that this is the most effective way of giving as well as receiving pleasure. The element that must be in place is simple: Both of you must be consummate cocksuckers! If you have a partner who is not in the least interested in giving head and only likes to receive it then to attempt sixty-nine is to ask for unhappiness in your relationship.

TECHNIQUES

As editor of FRENCH CUISINE MAGAZINE I sometimes send out questionnaires to our members to find out more. I question them about their desires, and their favorite ways to practice safe and sane oral sex

Here are some of the most popular variations on cocksucking.


THE BUTTERFLY FLUTTER

The best position for this very sensuous cocksucking movement is kneeling over your partner. If he is on his back kneel between his legs. Or kneel in front of your partner while he stands. I like this position because the cock feels thicker in your mouth and throat and you have complete freedom to play with his balls while performing this maneuver.

This technique was first introduced to me by a cocksucker in northern California. There was a notorious movie theater in downtown San Francisco with a darkened balcony. A cocksucker's haven. And this guy had us lined up. You knew from the moans emanating from the guy's throat who was getting his cock sucked that this guy was that one in a thousand who knew how to please a variety of fresh cockmeat. It felt so good that I studied him closely while he was sucking cock. Not only did I observe the guys who were getting the radical suck, but I got down close to the cock and observed how he was maneuvering around it. He created the basic vacuum pressure on the cock but only enough pressure to pull the cock into his mouth ever so slightly.

With his lips firmly wrapped around the guy's big swollen cock head and shaft he would gently flick the tip of the cock with his tongue. With his lips open around the cock at a depth so that he could touch the tip of the cock with the tip of his tongue. With his lips around the cock shaft he would make an up and down movement with his tongue. He would flutter his tongue up and down the tip of the cock.

I recommend you try it. It will drive your Butterfly Flutter partner back into your mouth at any hour you want him there. After several minutes of this continue with the basic vacuum suck.

THE TRAVELING FIGURE EIGHT

After you have become comfortable with the basic vacuum suck and you have become accustomed to his cock deep in your mouth and throat try this action. It is guaranteed to take his breath away. With your lips firmly wrapped around the cock shaft try very slowly to reach the base of the shaft or as close to it as you are comfortable. Your nose should be buried in or at least touching the pubic hairs at the base of the cock.

With your nose trace a figure eight as if the figure eight were lying on it's side. Your figure eight motion should be three to four inches long. Slowly travel up the shaft of the cock to the head, doing the figure eight motion. Keep doing this motion and let your lips firmly travel up and down the cock shaft. Do this for as long as you are comfortable with it. Believe me your man is floating in orbit as his wildest dreams of the ultimate blow job are coming true.

I give credit for this most erogenous technique to a member of "The Cocksuckers Club of America" who lives in Oregon. He and his partner were on vacation down in Southern California and they visited me while here. After seeing him scrape his partner off the ceiling when he did the Traveling Figure Eight, I rushed right into my bedroom and perfected it on my own partner! When you get tired of the movement slow down and return to the basic vacuum suck.

By this time you are becoming more and more confident with your partner. His cock feels great as it fills your mouth and throat. The cock is becoming harder and warmer as your warm moist mouth and throat create friction by going up and down that big beautiful cock. It is time to cool his tool just a little with this technique.

COOL THE TOOL

I take full credit for this one myself! From tho time I hit puberty I was fascinated by cocks. Big ones, little ones, cut ones, uncut ones, crooked ones, straight ones. All shapes, all sizes. I wanted to feel them down my throat! Combine this very basic love of cocksucking with an inherent fear of not being able to take cock and completely satisfy the customer and you can imagine how I felt. I needed a technique that would feel good in my mouth and would feel good for my partner. Here's what I came up with:

Go down on the cock shaft as far as you are comfortable. All the while your lips should be firmly wrapped around the shaft. Open your mouth as wide as you can and suck in as much air as your lungs will hold. While sucking in air let your open mouth travel up to the cock head. Your up stroke motion should end at the head of his cock just as your lungs fill with air. Now with your mouth still open let the air in your lungs out slowly through your mouth as your opened mouth travels back down the cock shaft. This technique cools the cock on the up stoke and warms the cock with your hot breath on the down stroke. Do this movement as long as you like then return to the basic vacuum suck method.

CONGRATULATIONS!

You are doing just fine and he loves it!

Keep it up as long as you are comfortable with it.

For his added pleasure and to give you something to play with reach up and fondle his balls. Or go up even further and play with his nipples. This will give him something else to concentrated on so he doesn't pop his cock yet. If you feel he is about to cum stop what you are doing and let him cool off for a few minutes. After all you are having fun and you want to enjoy his cock as much as you can until you get tired of it. Then let him pop his cock! But not yet. He likes it too much and he wants it to last as long as you can keep it going.

THE CIRCLE

Place his stiff cock inside your mouth but do not tighten your lips around the shaft. With your head begin a circle motion. The cock will slide to different places in your mouth as you continue the circle motion. Watch your teeth on this one.

A kneeling position will suffice but it is also effective when your partner is on his back and your head is directly over his cock. The circle should be executed in both clockwise and counterclockwise motions in a slow purposeful manner.

THE LOLLIPOP LICK

With your man sitting in an elevated position and you on your knees in front lift his hard cock to reveal his balls. With your tongue find the underside of his balls. Now, while resting his balls on your wet tongue, lick in an upward motion to the very tip of his cock. It is permissible to use your hands in this technique. It is better to do this technique several times in succession-like licking a lollipop or ice cream cone.