new rule: fuck the golden rule

the golden rule is the biggest cock-blocker in history!  i don't mean that it's not a good idea to consider how your behavior effects others or how it would feel if you were in the other person's place.  it's just that jesus' new rule--"do unto others"--just doesn't work the same way in the bedroom.  what i want to do unto others is not what i want done unto me.  and that is perfectly okay.  it doesn't mean that i have something wrong with me psychologically or ethically.  it simply means that the choices i make at the smorgasbord of erotic opportunity are not the same choices others make.  people are different--thank god.  speaking of smorgasbords, some people are so "weird" that they eat big macs!  others eat live octopus (now that is disgusting!).  my point:  if there's something you'd like to do unto another, there's very likely a partner out there for you.  the golden rule assumes that everyone is just like little ole' me--and they aren't.  it's not just a simple matter of right and wrong.

it took me years to get over the golden rule and its pernicious sexual-fun-destroying proclivity.  from the time i was twelve, i wanted to be mounting the hottest boys in my class, and i didn't really want them after my ass.  (reciprocity has never really been my thing!)  the thought of fucking another guy was unthinkable, though, and not simply because i was in the closet.  it was unthinkable because i couldn't imagine anyone actually wanting to get fucked.  it took me years of sexual experience to really come to understand that there really are guys who just want to be penetrated.  some love it!  and there are even those who want to be taken and dominated, tied up, pissed on (and in), face-fucked and flogged, etc.  and make that a big ETC.  and there's an erotic logic to most if not all of this.

most of us, however, have internalized the logic of the gold rule, even if we weren't raised in a christian family.  it is the death-knell for erotic fun, however.  what one needs to consider--whether in the bedroom or fucking your way into the mile-high club--is not what you would want to have done to you, but what the other very real person tied up in front of you or kneeling in front of your raging hard-on or cruising you in chuch would actually like to have done unto him.  he's frequently very willing to tell you.  and then...mount and penetrate (or whatever you like to do) without guilt, horny reader!

in praise of olive oil: redux

i want to return today to discuss the miracle of olive oil for oral sex.  olive oil has become one of my tricks of the trade, and until you've tried it, i don't think you can appreciate how good it does what it does.  and i don't mean dress salads!

good oral sex requires a lot of saliva.  the best cocksuckers generate a ton of it, and it can get messy.  sloppy, wet saliva also feels so good when someone takes it and rubs it all over your balls and uses it to lubricate their caresses while your cock is down their throat! tops disagree about this--some want your hands on the shaft, but i'm a balls guy--i want my cock deep in your throat and your hands--both of them, ideally--on my balls.  one of my regular favorites calls it the "worshiping master" position.  i like that.  and hands shouldn't just hover there stationary, they need to caress and explore, fondle, and pull/tug gently.

people generate different amounts of saliva in their mouths.  and i suspect that we generate less as we age.  and some people have conditions in which their mouths generate less and less.  a dry mouth can even be dangerous for the teeth and gums.  it's also hard to keep the saliva generation going on for extended play.  there is an answer to these problems and it comes from the land of jesus, miracles, and hot men--olive oil!

several weeks ago i was with a newcomer to the trade.  he wanted to learn how to deepthroat and i was his instructor.  my cock kept hitting the back of his throat and meeting stiff (& dry-feeling) resistance--a rock meeting a hard place, if you will.  i whipped out my bottle of olive oil, lubed my cock up generously, slid it in and out a few times to lube up his throat, and my cock slid almost effortlessly right down into his deep throat.  shocked the shit out of him.  but he loved it.  a first for him! a real treat for me! i suspect that a good lubed throat that effortlessly allows the cock to pass deep inside helps overcome the gag reflex as well.

additional benefits of olive oil:  it tastes good.  certainly better than lube.  and for the top, i think it's the perfect viscosity, especially when mixed with saliva and the soft inner tissue of an eager bottom's mouth and throat. and it feels pretty fucking wonderful on the balls as well. stock up for your next session!

tom deflowers a virgin cocksucker

this is me in action. not today's action, but it's me...

several days ago i got a phone call from a fellow planning to visit new york who said that he'd never sucked cock before, but he wanted to experience it. he was wondering if i would take on a beginner.  most of all, he said, he wanted to learn to deepthroat. 

a widower, he'd only recently discovered this desire, this side of his sexuality.  and that desire had lead him ultimately to my blog.  of course i said yes; this was my ideal job presenting itself.  i eagerly agreed to meet up!

we talked a little when he arrived, and then i sat him on a stool, stood over him, and pressed his face into my crotch.  he undid my belt and jeans button and pulled open my fly.  i told him that i liked the feel of his hot, moist breath working its way through the cloth of my underwear and that it's a great way to make a guy good and hard; it's a great appetizer for the main course that's to follow.

after letting him steam me up for a little and get me growing, i reached down and slowly pulled my jeans and black calvin's down, revealing my pubes and the top of the shaft and then, inch by inch, slowly letting him see the whole thing, as it sprang out of the constricting underwear.  

i'm never sure whether to believe someone when they tell me it's their first time, but this guy seemed pretty straight-forward.  he also seemed sufficiently excited, anxious, eager, and out of his element.  he took me in his mouth immediately and tried to take me all the way, for instance.  i wasn't hard enough yet to go there, nor was he ready to take me.

so i told him to go easy and relax, we had plenty of time.  it was exciting for me to know that this "student" of mine had read my blog and was between my legs, eager to try things he'd read about, releasing desires he'd only dreamed about, and wanting to learn from me and from the situation.  he told me he'd found saytr films' "ream his straight throat" online and had been watching it.

it didn't take me long to spring into full hardness, and he was eager to experience it all the way down his throat--just as he'd said he would be.  he kept trying to force it deeper and deeper and the back of his throat kept me tightly locked out.

so following a tip from one of my buds mentioned earlier--the post about olive oil--i pulled out the natural miracle juice, poured it all over my cock, and slid my hard salami down over his tongue, back and forth a little knocking at the entrance of this throat, stood up to adjust the angle a litte, and sunk it home, deep into the back of his throat.

he liked it, much to my surprise, although it took the wind out of him. he was surprised to discover that he couldn't breathe with the cock down his throat.  he was an eager sucker, however, and was quick to dive back on my cock.  and for the rest of the time we were together, my cock was either down his throat or he was catching his breath, or his tongue was up my ass--he was surprised to find that he liked that.  grrr!

i took him into my bedroom and put him in the supine position on my bed.  my cock slid right down deep into his throat.  i've read that this position is sometimes easier for beginners.  and while that has not been my experience in the past, it was today.  he wanted me to cum in him, but wasn't sure if he wanted me deep down his throat or to come in his mouth. he was also a little concerned about hiv, so i carefully explained the levels of risk and my negative status. he wanted to go ahead.  i suggested it might be easier if deeper, and he agreed.  so i stroked to the edge, told him to get ready for some facefucking, sunk my cock deep into the back of this throat, and fucked him until i blasted deep down his throat.

he's coming back monday for another session.  i think we're both looking forward to it.

notes to make a top hard

every once in a while i get a note from a bottom who really knows how to make this top hard. here are a few from today:

"SIR, i definitely have a hungry and talented throat! love to milk a man's cock deep in my throat, choke on it til the eyes water and the think [?] gob develops... can settle in on cock for hours!"

damn. hard to resist an invitation like this! thank you, boy!

the note reminds me of the smokin' hot scene from lucas entertainment's paris playboys where rafael alencar makes sebasitan ritz cry. a five-star woof--both for the video and for sebastian! click on the picture here of sebastian crying to order the video. you too can penetrate sebastian! or vicariously take his place!
one of my favorite cocksuckers--a lanky twenty-something boy with a bottomless throat and a muscular smooth body--is coming to see me tonight. we texted back and forth to set it up. he has a fantasy of going to sleep with my cock in his mouth. here's the conversation:

TI: hummmmm. sleep inside you tonight?

CS: i can but have to go home. like 8? does that work?

TI: that works

CS: cool. i'll be over at 8 then.

TI: still have address?

CS: i do. it's in my texts.

TI: we're going to time how long you can hold my cock buried deep down your throat. it will help to have a benchmark for future to work from...

CS: mmm. sounds hot. you're getting me hard.

TI: and it will be deep. as deep as i can force it. as long as you can stand it.

CS: we need to do the subway platform. that's your fantasy right?

TI: fuck yea. but i want photos of that.

CS: we can do my fantasy at your place

TI: and that is?

CS: would love to get on my knees while you're sitting on your couch. take off your shoes for you and some other clothes. suck you off while you're sitting there in your socks and underwear.

TI: that's tonight. and i'm going to sit there watching porn

CS: hot

TI: you do the work, i'm taking the pleasure

CS: sitting back with one hand behind my head making sure i take it all

TI: both hands forcing your head down on my thrusting pulsing rockhard manspear

CS: mmmmm. yea. have me lick your balls and pits in between. massage your socked feet while blowing you

TI: nice. now shut up and focus on your work cocksucker

CS: yessir

some asses you'd like to sink your tongue into...

...wouldn't you now, pigboy? why don't you get your tongue in there and get it good and ready and i'll follow with my cock!

there's a pic of me in this post. there's also a pic of a boy i've fucked. can you guess which is which? ha!

smokin' hot oral porn...

good dance always looks easy, improvised, fun. it inspires as it elevates--especially when it's naked. right? seriously, what do you think makes for inspiring oral porn? if you have an opinion, please share it here. i'm enabling comments on this blog so readers can post their thoughts.

i don't want to "review" porn here on the oral archive. i want to sleuth out the hottest and best and pass those recommendations along to you. there is too much boring and poorly-produced stuff out there--why waste time and space talking about it? i want my readers to have access to the best. so each week i will wade through a small stream of porn looking for great moments and quality productions and i will pass my recommendations along to you. i will capture the best of what i see on screen and i will even recommend whole films--perhaps a regular "video of the week." i'm looking for moments like this--check out the expression on this bottom's face:

below is what i look for. (keep in mind, this is a working list, so please feel free to add your suggestions in the comments area below)

creative cocksucking: there needs to be more than in and out

pleasure: i want to see it on the faces of everyone involved

passion: actors who are clearly into each other

deep penetration: tops who know how to command, bottoms who know how to receive (even if they switch roles)

large and hard cocks: goes without saying

attitude: tops who are dominant and aggressive, bottoms who are reverential--or a complete creative reversal of those roles

big energy: there needs to a palpable sense of excitement and intensity


realistic: the action should look like actual sex, nothing staged or formulaic

beautiful interactions: i need to see more than a dick going in and out of a hole. i want to see real bodies--whole people, not body parts--having sex and enjoying it.

the interaction should have the characteristics of an improvised dance, it should have the spontaneity, fun, freedom, and energy of something new and fresh

cinematography: creative use of sets, costume, lighting, positioning

imaginative: i'd like to learn from porn--ideas to take back into my sex life, to share with others, to pass along to you. what the fuck--for instance--is going on in the photo above? someone is tied up, it seems (new york bondage club style), and his rock-hard prick is enjoying every minute of it. but there's more to the story, clearly. someone here has a few tricks to teach me. bring it on! and i'll be passing this along to you.

so there's my working list. what do you think, horny reader?

confession of a topman

walking along broadway tonight i saw these.  almost came in my pants.  but this is new york post-giuliani.  nothing very exciting is going to exist under anything this public...just clothes. 

so today i'm going to tell you a little about me. and here are some pics of me at play. 

 a confession:  i'm a convert to oral sex.  when watching porn, i used to fast-forward through it to get to the "real" stuff.  when dvds replaced vhs tape, i was actually relieved that i wouldn't have to watch any oral (or any other introductory material or story line) but could jump directly to what i wanted:  big dick plowing into hot ass.  i always assumed that oral was what the bottom did to get the top ready to bang him and that there wasn't much more to it.  and i didn't need any of it--i was hard and ready to fuck a hot bottom in a few seconds notice.  i'm still a little this way--when i see a hot guy on the street, the first thing i check out is the ass.  never the "package"--i leave that for my bottom friends.

just this last saturday night, for example, i met a guy on manhunt who told me that he was the only top in a room full of hot bottoms.  he needed help.  after looking at the pics of a few of them, i stuffed my cock in my tight whites and headed for the hotel pennsylvania.  when i arrived, i found an exhausted top sitting on manhunt and four horny bottoms waiting for something hard to ride.  one in particular caught my eye--a very dark-skinned black guy just a little shorter than myself, built like a college athlete, with the arrogant air of a rap star, dark eyes that glistened like marbles, and pecs the size of grapefruit that i later used as manhandles as my cock pounded up into his ass.  his beard was trimmed close into lines that began with his sideburns and ran down to form a gotee, closely trimmed to the skin, outlining a face that looked chiseled out of black marble.  woof!  i fucked him at the hotel.  he came home with me and i fucked him until 5:30 a.m.  i fucked him again last night.  there was no oral.  just down to business top stuff.


i'm a top.  i'm an ass man.  i always have been.

a few years ago, however, i started to meet bottoms who were really talented cocksuckers.  my "conversion" to oral started when i met a guy who could lay on his back, on my bed, with his head hanging over the edge of the mattress.  i would slip my cock down his throat, wrap my thighs around his face, lock his head into place, pin his arms behind his back, and slide my dick deep down his throat.  i discovered that i could even forcefully rape him in that position and he fuckin' loved it--loved being facefucked until he gagged and gagged and gagged.  and then he'd beg and arch for my cock when i pulled it out and away from his face.  i couldn't believe it.  and he'd say that he finally found a top who knew how to use a bottom.  i've come to love bottoms who can take a good skull-fucking.  i like being in charge, on top, in control, the bottom's hair clenched in my fist, his shoulders pinned against the wall by my legs, my cock throbbing in the base of his throat.  sometimes i think about letting him come up for air.

so that's how i started exploring the wide world of oral.  this blog, in part, is a chronicle of that adventure, dedicated to all the hot men who have made my cock hard and thick and happy.

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