comfortably numb

this new product has been in the news quite a bit lately.  bill o'reilly demonstrated it on the factor last night.  he said he's old fashioned and, except for viagra, didn't really need chemical assistance.  who knew he was such a good cocksucker?

anyway, i've ordered some to try--not myself, of course--but i'll get a few bottoms to check it out on my cock and i'll report back to you.  if you have experience with it, please comment!

here's the manufacturer's description:

"Comfortably Numb is a flavored desensitizing spray specially formulated to reduce the discomfort associated with oral sex. The refreshing mist contains a mild numbing agent that coats the back of the throat, helping to suppress gag reflex and prevent discomfort during oral sex. Discreet enough to take with you wherever you go, this special spritz doubles as a breath freshener as well."

i especially like the idea that it's "discreet enough to take wherever you go."  what a great way to manage perception of the corporation's stinginess with quantity and flip it into a benefit.  on the other hand, they're also suggesting that oral sex might just belong places outside the bedroom, and we can appreciate that suggestion, even if o'reilly didn't.

comfortably numb can be ordered at amazon.com or on the fox news official website.

in praise of olive oil: redux

i want to return today to discuss the miracle of olive oil for oral sex.  olive oil has become one of my tricks of the trade, and until you've tried it, i don't think you can appreciate how good it does what it does.  and i don't mean dress salads!

good oral sex requires a lot of saliva.  the best cocksuckers generate a ton of it, and it can get messy.  sloppy, wet saliva also feels so good when someone takes it and rubs it all over your balls and uses it to lubricate their caresses while your cock is down their throat! tops disagree about this--some want your hands on the shaft, but i'm a balls guy--i want my cock deep in your throat and your hands--both of them, ideally--on my balls.  one of my regular favorites calls it the "worshiping master" position.  i like that.  and hands shouldn't just hover there stationary, they need to caress and explore, fondle, and pull/tug gently.

people generate different amounts of saliva in their mouths.  and i suspect that we generate less as we age.  and some people have conditions in which their mouths generate less and less.  a dry mouth can even be dangerous for the teeth and gums.  it's also hard to keep the saliva generation going on for extended play.  there is an answer to these problems and it comes from the land of jesus, miracles, and hot men--olive oil!

several weeks ago i was with a newcomer to the trade.  he wanted to learn how to deepthroat and i was his instructor.  my cock kept hitting the back of his throat and meeting stiff (& dry-feeling) resistance--a rock meeting a hard place, if you will.  i whipped out my bottle of olive oil, lubed my cock up generously, slid it in and out a few times to lube up his throat, and my cock slid almost effortlessly right down into his deep throat.  shocked the shit out of him.  but he loved it.  a first for him! a real treat for me! i suspect that a good lubed throat that effortlessly allows the cock to pass deep inside helps overcome the gag reflex as well.

additional benefits of olive oil:  it tastes good.  certainly better than lube.  and for the top, i think it's the perfect viscosity, especially when mixed with saliva and the soft inner tissue of an eager bottom's mouth and throat. and it feels pretty fucking wonderful on the balls as well. stock up for your next session!

overcoming the gag reflex

the gag reflex is a product of the body's psychological AND physiological responses, so it can be a bit of a challenge to overcome. learning to control the gag reflex is a skill that can be worked on. you can improve. so if you're a beginner and you are afraid, that's okay. just know that you can always get better. even within a single session, if you are patient with yourself, you can improve as you relax, take your time, stay non-judgmental with yourself, and understand that what you are undertaking is not easy for everyone in the beginning. in this way it's not a whole lot different from learning to get fucked--you need to learn to relax certain muscles before it can be pleasurable.




suggestion #1: remember to breathe. denying your body the air it needs will only cause you to tense up and become anxious. the best cocksuckers are able to breathe around the cock or through their nostrils even when dick is lodged deep in their throat--and this is primarily about relaxation. that's a level of expertise that is pretty rare, in my experience, but it is out there. woof! work it, cocksucker!

suggestion #2: practice on a dildo or penis-sized vegetable and learn to work with your gag reflex. practice does make perfect!

suggestion #3: take things bit by bit and have confidence! know that your body will relax onto and around him.

suggestion #4: experiment. some angles are easier for some people and more difficult for others. the angle that works best can also be a factor of the shape and curvature of your partner's cock.

suggestion #5: get in touch with your own arousal. it works wonders to help decrease the gag reflex!

i will write more about this in future posts. i also want to invite readers to share suggestions--please write to me if you have ideas that should be added here!