porn: good for what ailes society

porn inspires strong opinions in people.  some believe that it degrades women.  others say that it contributes to social disorder and encourages people to commit sex crimes.  the more extreme even believe that porn should be illegal.  

on the other side of the debate are those who argue that porn involves fantasy and masturbation and can decrease sexual violence.  there are feminists who argue that porn can empower women (and gay men, this blog argues) by freeing them from the shackles of a restrictive society.  

here is "the scientist" weighing in on the matter:

Over the years, many scientists have investigated the link between pornography (considered legal under the First Amendment in the United States unless judged “obscene”) and sex crimes and attitudes towards women. And in every region investigated, researchers have found that as pornography has increased in availability, sex crimes have either decreased or not increased.

according to the article, few studies have been able to establish any link between porn and antisocial behavior.  none has found a causal relationship.  nor has any study revealed a link between porn and misogynist attitudes.  on the contrary, research seems to indicate that as porn becomes increasingly available, the rate of sexual violence actually goes down.  men exposed to x-rated movies treat women with more respect, not less.  one study focused on prison rapists revealed that those who rape were more likely to have been punished for looking at porn and that strict, repressive religious upbringing correlates positively with sex offenses.

i think a problematic effect of porn unmentioned here could be people sitting at home beating off in front of their computers rather than getting out--or inviting others over--to have an active social/sexual life.  porn can contribute to a shame-prone and private relationship with ones stack of glossy mags or ones computer. 

combichrist: shut up and swallow

a reader put me onto this industrial song by combichrist: "shut and swallow." warning: this is provocative and heavy duty! in a hetero context i would find this song offensive. but is it to "us," if she means he? why is that? i think one of the privileges that gay men get away with is the play with power i've discussed before. love it! a link to the song and the lyrics follow:

click here for the song on youtube.com



"You know the truth."
"Where are you?"
"You could call it the end of the world.."

You fucking parasite
Feeding off my voice like a leech
Sucking me dry
Use your head
Hope you're gagging in your throat
Hope you gag and choke
Your pale little face turning blue


If you want it in your ass as I spit in your face
Face down on the floor holding you by your neck
Do you feel like a wreck?
Well that's life, kiddo
Now shut up and swallow
Shut up and swallow


You'll get nothing for free
Don't try to suck it off me
You always take you what you want
Now I just take what is mine
I'll give you abstinence
You tell of life..
It's up to you to fill it with substance

I'll play your game
A lesson of life: It's not what you want, but what you get
You'll feel it from within as I work my way out
Such a pretty girl, but such a dirty mouth


Now you want it in your ass as I spit in your face
Face down on the floor, holding you by your neck
Do you feel like a wreck?
Well that is life, kiddo
Now shut up and swallow
Shut up and swallow

"Where are you?"
"You could call it the end of the world."

phallic wonder

"Going down on a man is one of life's singular pleasures. Nothing compares to having the absolute focus of your lover's heat, intensity, lust, and desire right in front of you, and in your mouth...Giving our lovers pleasure gives us pleasure, too. For some who like to give, it's more a pleasure of the heart, mind, or soul; for others, it's a direct pathway to their own arousal; or it can be both." -Violet Blue

power play

manhungry bottom.  woof!  with his bulging left bicep and his leather armband on the right flagging bottom, pulling his top's cock down into his throat.  damn.  want to be there!

nietzsche famously said that "true" men want two things: danger and play. he also said that creativity is a direct outgrowth of play. and psychoanalysts (esp. winnicott) have made the same point: play is good, play is healthy, play makes a person more creative and happy. in our culture, sex is so closely linked to romance and to love that sex as play outside those contexts is frequently, if not routinely, discounted or condemned, making it dangerous and even more attractive. we know this paradox, horny reader, don't we?


play and power, danger, public play, power play as play: some like to be served, some like the feeling of mutuality, some like to dominate and tie up their "victims." some like it in the john, in the locker room, the steam room or the back seat.  under the freeway overpass.  the more the power is in my hands, the happier i am, that's just me. plenty of people like to give up all power "in the bedroom," especially, in my experience, those with a lot of power in every-day life.









celebrating inequality--that's what this post is about. whether it’s the top with his hand behind the neck, controlling his bottom as he thrusts into his face; or two hands forcing the bottom down onto the top’s rock hard cock; or the leather daddy with his cocksucker on his knees before him, blindfolded or arms cuffed together; rope around the throat--the better to be controlled with; the top standing over his bottom splayed out on the sofa in the supine position, top taking his pleasure, holding the head up and thrusting down into the throat, or spreading the lips and teeth apart; or if it’s the hotness of interracial mantopping or the bottom bound and hooded in the supine position, forced to take his master’s cock...it’s all good. it’s all human. it’s all fun. it’s play.

now get down on your knees, cocksucker!

oral, bondage, power

there's a very natural connection between oral sex and bondage, and it's a theme this blog will explore in more detail in the future. i'll also be writing about power and sex, the play with power that is always a part of any sexual encounter.

some folks assume that sex is "supposed" to be about equality, that it's supposed to be reciprocal in the sense that power relations remain balanced. is that ever the case when one man gets on his knees in front of another? power is always being played with and negotiated in sex. sometimes it's just more obvious. and sometimes it's just more fun. the fun begins with the frank acknowledgment that power is always implicated in sexual adventure.
bondage complicates things, it adds a whole new dimension to the play with power that is a part of every sexual encounter. it can change around and mix up these dynamics in unexpected and titilating ways. if i tie you up and top you, taking both of your holes for my pleasure, it's clear that i'm the alpha top having my way. but what if you tie me up and blow me. who is the top? who is the bottom?

hot pics: on your knees, cocksucker!