supine position redux

yesterday's post on the supine position generated surprisingly divergent responses. one guy said that the less control he has the better his throat "finally just gives in." another said that after seeing it here his boyfriend tried it and was more successful taking a face-fucking. (i love to know that the blog is having a positive effect! thank you.) another said that while he has no problem being "used" in this way, it isn't his favorite position because "it is very impersonal, reducing the cocksucker to a mere hole."

i've always been intrigued by the diversity of ways that sensory input, psychological dispositions, and body shapes, builds, chemistry, etc. all combine in ways to produce differing sexual turn-ons, behavior, habits. we relate to our bodies and to the bodies of others in--at least to me--a surprisingly wide variety of ways. i've almost never seen two men masturbate the same way, for instance. and here are very differing reactions to the supine position.

is there one correct way to "do" any kind of sex? is there such a thing as an "authentic eros"? i don't believe so. a lot of ink has been spilt trying to convince us that "real" sex is an expression of love, that sex has to be related to procreation or intimacy or you name it. these are fictions we tell ourselves to govern our desires, our bodies, our behaviors.

sometimes i like to be reduced to a shaft for oral worship. sometimes i want to be seen for "who i am" in a more generous capacity. is one mode, position, or relationality necessarily better than the other? frankly, i love being on top in the supine position. it gives me access to my partners nips, to his abs, his cock and balls, his legs. it's a great way to do 69. and for a top who loves the feeling of domination...woof! i fuckin' love sinking my cock deep into a bottom's throat while i'm forcefully holding his arms locked behind his back and biting--gnawing--at his hard abs with my thighs wrapped around his head forcing it in as deep as i can lodge it. line up, cocksuckers!